Today I would like to talk to you about the importance of family and relationships. What do the people in your life mean to you? It’s easy to say you love somebody but are you there when it really counts?
Since our families are the first people we bond with in life we will start with them. Beginning with your parents, these two people created you, you are part of them. Whether they are together or not shouldn’t matter, the only thing that truly matters is that that is your Mother and Father – your creators. They both love you in their own way. They both probably communicate with you in different ways as well. We need to respect and love them and adapt to their ways, even when it is frustrating or difficult. At the end of the day, they are only human, not saints, just like us. They carry baggage just like everyone else, some people have the tools to deal with their baggage and some do not. We do not know the battles these individuals have fought, and we do not have the right to judge. Understanding and love is needed, so is respect and appreciation for all that they have done for you. If you cannot have a strong relationship with your parents, where will that take you in the future relationships? Speaking as a parent, no one in this world loves their child more than their parents. I truly believe it is very important to keep those relationships strong because your parents are the best and biggest support system you will ever have. If you feel like you have lost or are losing that bond with your parents – go find it and work on it. It is an investment you will never regret. Your Mom, Dad, siblings and relatives are all you have at the end of the day. So work on those relationships, invest in those relationships. Give it your all, because family is number 1. Learn to let go and accept. Go with the flow. Be your higher self not your ego.
I want you to remember one thing – no matter who we talk about today. Human beings cannot give what they do not have. They can only give you what they have in this moment. Your empathy, patience and love goes a long way in ensuring you maintain strong relationships with everyone in your life. We learn from others on a daily basis. When you act out in anger, resentment and frustration it’s because you are afraid of something, you are not moving forward with that individual, you will stay stuck. Acting out of love helps people see their potential and be in tune with their higher self which will benefit both of you. It will help each of you feel the positive productivity happening and it opens the door for stronger communication. No matter what, when one acts out of love instead of fear there is almost always a positive result and reward.
Another important relationship you will experience is; your mate. This human-being becomes your lover, the father/mother of your children, and your best friend. This person becomes the center of your world. I have been with my husband for 38 years. And it has been an enormous learning experience. There are good days, great days and not so good days. But at the end of the day, love bares all, hopes all, believes all and endures all. I think being in a relationship is give and take, communication, trust, honesty (no matter what the consequences may be), a lot of patience, understanding, compassion, forgiveness and most of all LOVE.
Last but not least is the friends we meet along our journey. Some come and go. A lot of laughter, fun, hugs and tears. Remember everyone who crosses our path is either a teacher or student. Life is a journey of self discovery, healing and growth. Guiding us to being the most amazing, incredible confident, happy and whole beings we are truly meant to be. Some friendships will be short and some will last a life time. Just know those individuals that are there make us feel fulfilled, secure and safe. Don’t forget about them in your journey, appreciate their presence in your life.
The best advice I would like to give you on this topic are my 3 golden rules that applies to every person you cross in life.
1) Never have any expectations of others. Everyone has their own agenda, their own life, their own perspective and their own path to walk. You do not know what they are thinking or the reasons they do the things that they do.
2) Never make assumptions. We do not have the time to waste assuming because most times we are quite simply, wrong. Assumptions can cause many issues that could of been avoided and a waste of time. Your focus is you and keeping your perceptions positive and instead of making assumptions about other people’s actions just talk to them. Communication is the answer to most of our interpersonal struggles.
3) Do not take anything personally. When someone acts in a negative way towards you, it’s a mere reflection of their insecurities and jealousies. Hurt people, hurt people. Again, communication is the most important component of strong relationships, don’t be afraid to ask questions and seek clarity in these types of situations.